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Corey Sienega's avatar

Great read-- painfully familiar and great. And I love when a professional in a store like that really makes you feel seen and worth it-- will have to treat myself someday soon! And the deep cut-- I haven't heard it in forever but apparently the 1000 times I listened to it back then stuck because I immediately started "singing/whining" along lol...

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Lara Starr's avatar

The number of lyrics that are lying dormant in our brains awaiting to be awakened is staggering! And, as always, thank you so much for your kind words and support <3

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Loretta's avatar

Your introduction, stating your top three beliefs about time, describes EXACTLY my own feelings and beliefs. I especially appreciate your "something's gotta give," which often is met with, "but not that." If not that, then what???? I have never received a workable suggestion, and I don't want that. I would like to receive recognition that I have so much on my plate and affirmation that I am not a lazy slob for not getting it all done.

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Lara Starr's avatar

Thank you my friend, and you are neither lazy nor a slob, you are a human with limits.

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Loretta's avatar

Thank you, dear Lara, I appreciate your affirmation and support.

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Jamie Weil's avatar

I want to meet this bra lady! Neither Mike nor I recognize the deep cut. Love your emotional walk through of feelings in this one.

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Lara Starr's avatar

She's worth a trip to SF! And thank you <3

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Angie Gascho's avatar

Loved your story! We've all had that experience of showing up on the wrong date or time...and have felt exactly as you describe. Can't wait for the "to be continued"

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Lara Starr's avatar

Thank you! <3

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Linda Hoenigsberg's avatar

I cannot even count the times I've been in similar situations. I've either had the date wrong or the place or time wrong...and my nervous system kicks into high gear. For me I think it's abandonment fears that get triggered. I was just thinking last night about how I need to figure out how to calm my nervous system...I mean try to deliberately calm it. Your story also reminded me of going into a department store bra department and asking if they had any "minimizer" bras). The staff member looked down at my chest and said, "Don't you want to celebrate 'em?"

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Lara Starr's avatar

There are all kinds of tricks to calm your nervous system. Unfortunately, alcohol and cigarettes work really well. I'm grateful they don't appeal to me.

And yes! Flaunt 'em if you've got 'em!

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